It's important to talk to your children about Netflix's 13 Reason's Why

A letter from Nicole Manganelli at Opportunity Alliance

Dear Adult Allies, Educators, and Parents, 

Many of you may be hearing discussions among the young people in your lives about a popular new Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why. The show, which has received a great deal of media coverage and is produced by Selena Gomez, features a graphic rape scene as well as a vivid portrayal of the main character Hannah’s suicide.

Unfortunately, the show is already showing signs of contributing to a culture of self-harm where parents and educators are ill-equipped to appropriately discuss mental health issues or sexual assault with youth. According to a Washington Post article, "A Florida schools superintendent told parents in a letter that his district has seen a rapid rise in at-risk behavior at elementary and middle schools — including
self-harming and suicide threats..." When asked about their behavior, students specifically cited the show as a reason for self-harm.

Given the nature of streaming services, it's fair to assume many young people, even those in elementary and middle school, have seen the show. We took a moment to ask Sheila Nelson, the Program Manager for Maine's Adolescent Health and Injury Prevention Program, for ideas about how to safely and responsibly guide the discussions happening about the show. 

At the Maine Youth Action Network, we believe in open dialogue with young people about the issues that affect their lives. We also know that in the case of suicide and self-harm, there are some critical points to include in these dialogues—and some important best practices to use when addressing dangerous myths or receiving disclosures. We've included a few of Sheila's tips below, as well as contact information for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

For more information, you can also visit this helpful guideline created by the National Association of School Psychologists.

Thank you for all you do to support the young people in your life to grow and thrive.

Best,
Nicole Manganelli